When should the shower be held?

It is generally held some time during the third trimester (the last three months of pregnancy). This is for a number of reasons. First, because it is a time when the pregnancy is considered safe and people feel secure in the celebration. Second, because by now Mum is beginning to bond with her baby and third, because it is a time when her spirits may need a well-deserved boost as the discomfort really starts to kick in. Showers can also be held after the birth as a “Welcome to the world” celebration.

Who should host the shower?

Old American tradition states that it should be a close friend rather than a family member of the mother-to-be, as it is primarily a gift giving occasion and one could appear to be in it for the goodies. No longer considered an issue, it may be held by whoever has the sentiment and motivation; a friend, family member, colleague or even partner!

Who should be invited?

A very traditional baby shower would be an all female event involving family members of both the parents-to-be and friends of the mother. Alternatively ‘friends only showers’, those held by work colleagues and post birth showers involving both parents are all quite popular. Unless arranging a surprise event, confer with the mum-to-be on the guest list.

How long should the shower last?

Around 2-3 hours is a good estimate. Advise guests of the approximate duration on the invitations.

Should the party be a surprise?

It can work well for a small group of close fiends, or events such as those thrown for a colleague on her last day of work. For larger showers however it can turn into a logistical nightmare.

What about having the shower after the baby is born?

A great idea – have a “Welcome to the World Party” so everyone gets to meet the new arrival. This type of shower usually involves both parents, their friends and family.

What about a shower for the second or third baby?

Traditionally showers were only thrown for the first born but this is no longer the case and “sprinkles” are being held for the proceeding siblings. These are generally smaller events with less extravagant gifts.

What information should be included on the invitation?

• Guest of honour’s name i.e. Mother-to-be, parents-to-be or the newborn itself if held after the birth.
• Shower date and time (with approximate duration)
• Host’s name and RSVP details
• Venue address 
• Location map
• Shower theme information (if applicable) 
• Sex of baby (if commonly known) 
• Wish list (if applicable)
• Any other relevant info or items you wish guests to bring along.

What is a general order of events?

Here’s a suggestive guide:

• Greet guests - serve drinks and light nibbles. 
• Initiate introductions  - the host should have each guest introduce themselves and identify how they know the mother-to-be (add humour by requesting their funny memory of her or with the use of baby photo’s – see games section)
• If including games, play a couple early on to break the ice.
• Food - allow guests to eat, chat and mingle.
• Gather guests for the gift opening and have someone keep note of each item with its benefactor. Pregnant ladies memories are not the best!
• Goodbyes. Mum-to-be and hostess should present favours (if applicable) and thank each guest personally as they leave.

Should my shower have a theme?

Not necessarily, but it can help set a tone to the shower and aid in the choice décor, menu, games and gifts. See Themes section for ideas.

Should there be games?

They can add structure and fun to the event and serve as good ice-breakers early on. You should be able to find some suitable ones in our Games section.

What gifts should people bring?

Something for either the baby or for the expectant mum. If the shower has a theme to which guests can relate their gift, this information should be included on the invitation – as should the baby’s sex if commonly known. A wish list can be beneficial for all parties, making buying easier and minimising duplicate or unwanted gifts. For larger items guests may choose to pool together. See the Natural Baby Shower shop for great gift ideas.

What is a wish list and who should mange it?

A wish list is similar to a wedding list – only relating to a baby shower instead. Depending on the guest list, it should include a variety of larger and smaller items, to accommodate varying budgets. It can be either shop specific, detailing individual stock items, or generic allowing guests more scope for personal choice. The list will need to be managed by the host. Visit Bare Neccessities for a list of new born essentials and luxuries.

What food and drinks should be provided?

Typically buffet food and snacks but sit down meals are also popular, particularly if a restaurant is your chosen venue.
Food can be made fun and styled around a theme. Take into account foods not recommended in pregnancy, including alcohol. Try some organic fruit wines (non-alcoholic).

What are favours and should they be included?

A favour is a small gift presented to each guest upon their departure. Afforded by the host, they are an optional token of gratitude for attending. Ideas may include traditional style sugared almonds, pot pouri, candles, chocs or a photo frame (ready for baby’s pic).